Valuing One's Words

I have begun to understand what it really mean by valuing one's words...

I realised I am a person who does not honour my own words, and yet I have been expecting others to honour their words. Honouring one's words would earn respect and power. In this case, I don't deserve any respect and support.


One particular incident actually shows how I have been operating in my life. One day, I in the midst of disciplining my children, I made a very serious statement - No more new toys for them until their birthdays come. Anyone who buys toys for them during this period, I will confiscate.

Yesterday, Daddy bought them toys, I didn't confiscate the toys. The excuse I gave to myself was: I don't want to create another dispute with him and the other family members. While I was upset that he didn't value my words, he gave me another incident that showed I didn't value his words too. What rights have I got to expect him to value mine?

For whatever excuses we gave for our stands, the fact is we have not been valuing each other words. For whatever reasons that I gave to myself, I have not honoured my words too. It must have happened so many times in the past, it will continue to happen again in future.

I am too quiet today, I am too ashame to say anything.