Sunday, April 13, 2008

Who can take over my disciplinary role

This is really a good place for me to pour out my feelings... I am feeling so frustrated now!

Since Aron started to have running nose, I wanted to sponge him instead of showering him from head to toe. While Asher is having shower (usually on weekends, the daddy will shower the boys), I tried to sponge Aron. However, Aron insisted he wanted to shower. Even when I had already changed him into clean clothes, he was still jumping and crying and wanted me to remove his clothes. In my frustration, I removed them, and told him that he shall have no clothes at all. Still he wanted to go for shower, and ran all over the house, from bedroom to living room to kitchen, NAKED, yelling, crying, stamping. I ignored him....

In the end, the daddy gave in and gave him a shower while I was still very heated up. To add on to the fire, my mum also asked me to give in and told me NOT TO LET ARON CRY TO MUCH AS HE IS STILL YOUNG.

Aron came out after the shower, knowing that I was still upset, wanted to hug me. But I rejected him coldly. After a while, he forgot about the whole incident and run around playing happily.

Though I am upset with Aron not listening to me, I am more upset when I was trying to stand firm on my ground, in order to make the boys get my message of what they can do and what they cannot, I got no support from anyone in the family, not even my husband.

Whenever I tried to discipline my boys with very fierce tone, once the boys started crying hysterically, there bound to have people going to their rescue, pacifying them back. When I am lost of how to deal with them, nobody come out to take over from me. I am tired of being the tigeress, shouting at them like a mad dog. Yet nobody is showing me the effective way of making them obey simple instructions. While I will gladly like to hand over my disciplinary role to anyone who can do a better job than me, nobody else wanted to take on this "dirty" and "ugly" job. For the rest of tonight, I shall keep very quiet. Just hope no one, including my boys, will agitate me further.

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