Upset Mummy

Aron has been shouting and yelling at the top of his voice whenever he couldn't get what he want. It has happened couple of times lately.

Just this morning, after he woke up, I asked him if he wanted to pass urine, he didn't reply and continue to lie in bed. I repeated the question a few more times, and he didn't respond. So I walked in to the bath room and pee. Halfway through, I heard his voice shouting outside:" I want to be number 1, I want to be number 1, I want to be number 1." When I finally finished my business, and opened the door, he yelled so loud and so angrily. Then he stamped his feet many times and cried.

It wasn't the first time he behaved this way. I stared at him with my eyes opened to the biggest possible that my eyeballs almost dropping out. Still he continued to yell. At the top of my heat, I told him to go and find another Mummy, as I don't want to be his Mummy any more, cos I don't want naughty boy who doesn't listen to me. At 1 point of time, I raised my arm and almost going to drop it hard on his face. The Daddy just sat on the bed and kept quiet.

I told Aron that he shall follow Ah Mah to her house and stay there and don't come back. I kept asking him to go and look for Ah Mah or go find another Mummy. While my mum just give a commend to MIL that Aron has a strong character (by nature), I shot back by saying it was because he was being pampered.

Finally, after sending the boys off to school, I had breakfast with the Daddy at the hawker centre. After making sure that I had cooled down, Daddy spoke to me calmly, saying that I should avoid bring the grandmas into the picture and I shouldn't push the children to them. MIL have been looking after the boys and yet I still make use of her when I am disciplining the boys.

I do agree that I have overlooked the issue on the grandmas' feelings, and I shouldn't drag them in. But when I am overflowing with anger, I do have the tendency to spike those people who do not stand in line with me or against my way of handling the issues. I want to challenge them and see how effective are their ways of handling as compared to me. At the end of the day, I want to see results - if the boys learn their lessons.

I told Daddy if he has a better way, by all means, just tell me to let him handle the situation, I would be glad to let step aside and let him take over. It wouldn't be so stressful for me. He agreed.

He said he just HOPE that whenever he come back home, everybody is happy. I can't guranttee that I can create happiness in the family every moment. So, if I have created unhappiness at some point of time, I also HOPE he can take over the mess and start to create happiness from there.

At the moment, whoever has an effective way to handle and control Aron's tantrum, I would beg him to take over and I would be most humble to learn from him. If there is no one who can handle this effectively, I have no choice, but to use the way I believe it works best.